![]() ![]() ![]() This tactic is common among workplace narcissists, family, school or even sports teams. This is a simple case of not handling rejection, being unable to see themselves as the issue so it’s easier to recruit others and destroy you, to maintain superiority which is the only aim. They also get more power from thinking others are against you. ![]() This tactic further feeds their personality disorder as they get attention and feel important again from anyone stupid enough to listen. They will play the card that they are worried and are bemused at why you have reacted the way you have, completely ignoring the fact/failing to see they have been bullying, controlling and manipulating you to the point you are mentally un well. They smear your reputation by telling friends, family and co workers that you were the aggressor and they are a victim who ‘was just trying to be nice’ or ‘was being a caring mother’ and you simply turned on them. Narcissists are experts at lying, manipulating and even charming people. The most common tactic of a narcissist is to play the victim, and create a smear campaign against you. Playing the victim and creating a smear campaign against you Let’s look at some of the most common tactics of a narcissist when they lose control, and which relationships they occur in most. For example, a narcissist who is a family member might operate slightly different to a work colleague, school mate, or coach. It also helps to understand how they they might be thinking within the dynamic of the relationship itself. How a narcissist will specifically react depends on the circumstances of the relationship and why they need control. They may simply ramp up the bullying in an attempt to gain back control Irrational, obsessive behaviour such as harassment via phone calls, emails or even in person with unplanned visits. Threats and manipulation in a desperate attempt you gain back control. Typical behaviours of a narcissist when they can no longer control you are –Īnger and aggression – driven by intense rage from the fact they can no longer control you, or you are making your own decisions This should be no different when tackling a narcissists behaviour. Because you know the behaviour will only get worse. But with a dog or a child, do you give in? No. If a puppy or a small child keeps begging for a treat or toy, and you say no, they may cry and scream and act up – a narcissist does the same when you cut off their supply. How does a narcissist react when they can’t control you Always remember, achieving your goals and feeling well is more important than feeding another persons selfish ego. So, you are ready to set some boundaries or go no contact, but how is this person going to react? The thought of this might even scare you in to enduring more abuse and saying nothing. It is common for people who are involved with narcissists to struggle to meet goals, and/or become anxious and depressed. You may a have a narcissistic colleague who only has one goal – to look the best and to see you look weak.Įither way, you need boundaries or even no contact at all from these people – otherwise your mental health will suffer. You may have a narcissistic family member or even a parent who is abusing you, constantly wearing you down with emotional blackmail to feel in control. Narcissists can inflict their abuse on people in many ways. With their intense feelings of self love, they have no empathy for others. Unfortunately, narcissists treat everyone as a tool to feed their needs, even children, partners, parents, friends etc. This control, feeds their desperate need to feel powerful, important and special. Narcissists thrive on using manipulation, emotional and physical abuse, gaslighting and other forms of abuse to gain control of people. What is a narcissist and why do they behave this way?Ī narcissist is a person who has an inflated sense of self importance who is pre occupied with their own needs. So, you are ready to set some boundaries or even go no contact, but how does a narcissist react when they can’t control you? Taking the next step to protect yourself from a narcissist in a relationship can be daunting, as you may be worried about a backlash. But also, well done for realising, as this can often be the hardest part. You may be reading this article if you suspect someone close to you, is a narcissist. ![]()
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